True belief in Christianity allows you to endure any failure even a failure to launch. What is success? All that matters is salvation. I won’t have a family of my own not out of my own choice but that’s just the way things happen for some people and I’m approaching middle age and by the worlds standards I would be considered a failure but Christ gives me joy and I’m fulfilled because of that. I don’t know if that E apostasy thing will happen, people need God they need Christ especially the “losers” in society. I think Christianity will continue to grow and revive itself
As more and more of us "lose", yeah, it is likely that people will seek solace and escape instead of a fighting chance to improve things for the newcomers...some choose pills, the others prayer-books.
I was born in the forties, my first computer programs were on plugboards, I don't have the vocabulary to understand half the terms you used, but have been feeling your angst for the last 30 years.
The pull for something real is strong. Many churchgoers are beginning to realize how shallow their faith is and looking to their leaders but seeing men that are fairly taken with the current ideology. It's often subtle, but as you get older it's much more noticeable. So the question is do you find at church with more "real" faith or do you stay and try to fight/help where you're at. The issue is much bigger if you have your own kids, you'll be able to see the issues and deal with it but your kids will be raised with it.
This makes me reflect. I was born in 97. Never got serious about life until I turned 27, and now at 28 I'm still struggling. I didn't graduate college until I was 27. Work in IT. Never had many serious relationships with women until I was 26, which ended, and since then I've been searching hut couldn't find anyone until a month ago when I got hooked up with a woman Taiwan. Didnt take health seriously until this year. I find myself constantly thinking about how unorthodox my life has been compared to my ancestors. I find myself utterly depressed that I have so far not lived the life I dreamed of as a child, not rich, not insanely important, possibly marrying a woman from another culture. But also find myself insanely happy with the fact that, despite being a late bloomer, I may yet "make it" in only the way a man like me could make it, looking back the struggles and frustrations that led me down this path feel more like adventures, less lamentable. Not living a life that my dather imagined for me does lead to a feeling disconnection with the past, a removal from my roots, but maybe its better to view that as a chance to make new roots. Take whats salvageable and bring into the future but still aim for something new. We are controlled by boomers who deny that the world had progressed beyond 1960, for good and bad. Maybe it's in the end, it's really about the grace of God, a bit of luck, autism, and stubbornness that will get you through in the end.
Typo: So what happens when the millennials who grew up and explored this place like the pioneers they told they were realized that they have no real homestead but an irl and online apartment in the city
Agree, Fortissax. Gen X here, born 1972. Not failure to launch, but I got a late launch. I have three children, born 2006, 2009, 2012- two girls and a boy.
The older girls, I think, will not have to worry about what you’ve stated in your piece. The boy, however, is a different story.
None of them, however, would understand a lick of what you’ve been going on about. I’m a very intellectual and introverted, and totally get what you’re saying.
> There are many great writers, “creators” (more on that term later), and thinkers who may have views, backgrounds, or practices I find distasteful, but nevertheless listen or check in on what they have to say because they are who they say that they of their words and their works.
'There will be plenty of people in the late twenties and early thirties that will either listen to their biological impulses and seek to shack up, or find themselves coming to be disillusioned with their political affiliations and walk away or simply change teams if they sense a winner (or better yet money and status.)'
What causes a lot of my anxieties is that these options aren't on the table for me without a) extreme luck and b) doing something morally wrong.
I'm a man who is attracted to other men. 'Shacking up' would mean either getting with a guy (and you reactionary types don't seem too keen on that, nor do the ever-growing Muslim minority in my country) or convincing a woman that I'm both a good match and that I'm capable of loving her. As for politics, the right think I'm a nonce and the left think I'm a nazi. So the only way for me to belong to a group (family, friends, professional circles etc) in these polarised times is to lie, and lie constantly. I don't even know what I believe anymore because I have to switch what I say I believe so often it's disorienting.
What would your advice be to someone for whom 'shacking up' or public political conversion are not viable options?
True belief in Christianity allows you to endure any failure even a failure to launch. What is success? All that matters is salvation. I won’t have a family of my own not out of my own choice but that’s just the way things happen for some people and I’m approaching middle age and by the worlds standards I would be considered a failure but Christ gives me joy and I’m fulfilled because of that. I don’t know if that E apostasy thing will happen, people need God they need Christ especially the “losers” in society. I think Christianity will continue to grow and revive itself
As more and more of us "lose", yeah, it is likely that people will seek solace and escape instead of a fighting chance to improve things for the newcomers...some choose pills, the others prayer-books.
I was born in the forties, my first computer programs were on plugboards, I don't have the vocabulary to understand half the terms you used, but have been feeling your angst for the last 30 years.
Me too. At least 30.
The pull for something real is strong. Many churchgoers are beginning to realize how shallow their faith is and looking to their leaders but seeing men that are fairly taken with the current ideology. It's often subtle, but as you get older it's much more noticeable. So the question is do you find at church with more "real" faith or do you stay and try to fight/help where you're at. The issue is much bigger if you have your own kids, you'll be able to see the issues and deal with it but your kids will be raised with it.
This makes me reflect. I was born in 97. Never got serious about life until I turned 27, and now at 28 I'm still struggling. I didn't graduate college until I was 27. Work in IT. Never had many serious relationships with women until I was 26, which ended, and since then I've been searching hut couldn't find anyone until a month ago when I got hooked up with a woman Taiwan. Didnt take health seriously until this year. I find myself constantly thinking about how unorthodox my life has been compared to my ancestors. I find myself utterly depressed that I have so far not lived the life I dreamed of as a child, not rich, not insanely important, possibly marrying a woman from another culture. But also find myself insanely happy with the fact that, despite being a late bloomer, I may yet "make it" in only the way a man like me could make it, looking back the struggles and frustrations that led me down this path feel more like adventures, less lamentable. Not living a life that my dather imagined for me does lead to a feeling disconnection with the past, a removal from my roots, but maybe its better to view that as a chance to make new roots. Take whats salvageable and bring into the future but still aim for something new. We are controlled by boomers who deny that the world had progressed beyond 1960, for good and bad. Maybe it's in the end, it's really about the grace of God, a bit of luck, autism, and stubbornness that will get you through in the end.
Typo: So what happens when the millennials who grew up and explored this place like the pioneers they told they were realized that they have no real homestead but an irl and online apartment in the city
Should be "the pioneers they were told they were"
There are far more typos than this, but it's a good piece anyway.
One Word: Suffah. It is as I have always said it would be. Ashes and Echoes.
Nothing Good Has Ever Happened, Frog Picture Man. No amount of vitalism or attempts at IRL Rachel Haywire Parties is going to change that.
Agree, Fortissax. Gen X here, born 1972. Not failure to launch, but I got a late launch. I have three children, born 2006, 2009, 2012- two girls and a boy.
The older girls, I think, will not have to worry about what you’ve stated in your piece. The boy, however, is a different story.
None of them, however, would understand a lick of what you’ve been going on about. I’m a very intellectual and introverted, and totally get what you’re saying.
I’m just waiting for the snow crash 😂…
Fantastic piece
> There are many great writers, “creators” (more on that term later), and thinkers who may have views, backgrounds, or practices I find distasteful, but nevertheless listen or check in on what they have to say because they are who they say that they of their words and their works.
This isn't a real sentence.
'There will be plenty of people in the late twenties and early thirties that will either listen to their biological impulses and seek to shack up, or find themselves coming to be disillusioned with their political affiliations and walk away or simply change teams if they sense a winner (or better yet money and status.)'
What causes a lot of my anxieties is that these options aren't on the table for me without a) extreme luck and b) doing something morally wrong.
I'm a man who is attracted to other men. 'Shacking up' would mean either getting with a guy (and you reactionary types don't seem too keen on that, nor do the ever-growing Muslim minority in my country) or convincing a woman that I'm both a good match and that I'm capable of loving her. As for politics, the right think I'm a nonce and the left think I'm a nazi. So the only way for me to belong to a group (family, friends, professional circles etc) in these polarised times is to lie, and lie constantly. I don't even know what I believe anymore because I have to switch what I say I believe so often it's disorienting.
What would your advice be to someone for whom 'shacking up' or public political conversion are not viable options?
Re-Enchantment Ain’t Happening, Hoss. There Just Ain’t None Left. Hope you had fun at the BAP parties!
Ashes and Echoes.
My word. That was quite an eye opening carnival ride. Most excellent. You’re how old??
I turn 30 this year.
I'll be 44 soon, and I still resonate with everything you've said here. Good article, if mildly blackpilling, ha.
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